
Rediscovering Intimacy After Baby: An Honest Take
Let’s talk about something no one really prepares you for: sex after having a baby. Sure, people tell you how your life will change— sleepless nights, endless diaper changes, and a love so fierce it knocks the wind out of you—but what about your sex life?
Spoiler alert: it changes, too.
Whether you’re a first-time mom or simply just growing your family there’s a good chance your relationship with intimacy will take a hit. Between the pure exhaustion, the physical changes to your body, and the mental gymnastics of adjusting to your new identity, sex might feel like the furthest thing from your mind—or worse, a source of stress.
Sex after having a baby is different, but it’s also a chance to reconnect with yourself and your partner in new ways. If you’re looking for a way to make that transition smoother (literally and figuratively) a luxurious lubricant might be what you need. It's not just designed for your mom who went through menopause, it's for you too. It's to help us moms feel confident, comfortable, and ready to take things at their own pace.
Your body just did something incredible.
You grew and delivered a whole human being.
Let’s dig deep about what’s going on down there after you’ve had a baby. While you’re basking in the glow of new motherhood (or, let’s be honest, surviving on two hours of sleep and cold coffee), your body is recovering from a major event.
For many women, postpartum sex comes with its own set of challenges. Vaginal delivery can leave you with stitches, scarring, or general soreness. A cesarean section might mean your core feels tender and weak, making certain positions uncomfortable. Add to that the hormonal roller coaster that comes with postpartum life, especially if you’re breastfeeding, and things can feel very different down there.
After giving birth (vaginally, in my experience) the idea of anything near your vagina can feel terrifying, and that’s completely normal. Your body has been through a lot, and it’s okay to take your time.
Postpartum vaginal dryness, caused by hormonal changes, can make sex uncomfortable or even painful
While exhaustion, stress, and body image struggles can push intimacy to the back burner. The key is patience, communication, and taking small steps—like using lube—when you’re ready to ease back into it.
Postpartum sex isn’t just about the physical changes. Your mind has a lot to do with it, too. For starters, adjusting to your new identity as a mom can make you feel like your old self disappeared.
You might look in the mirror and barely recognize the woman staring back at you.
Stretch marks, softer curves, a belly that still looks pregnant—it’s all normal, but it’s also a lot to process. Feeling sexy might not come naturally when you’re grappling with your new postpartum body.
Don't even get me started on the mental exhaustion. Between feeding schedules, diaper changes, and constantly wondering if the baby monitor is too quiet (Are they breathing?!), your brain has a hard time shifting gears into “sexy mode.” Add the constant fatigue, and sometimes you’d rather sleep than even think about sex.
Finally, there’s the pressure. Maybe your partner has been patient and understanding, but you still feel guilty for not being ready. Or maybe you’re ready in theory but terrified it’ll hurt!
If any of this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Millions of moms go through this, and there’s no shame in needing a little help to make your return to intimacy easier.
Why Lube is Your Postpartum Friend
This is where the lube comes in. If postpartum sex is feeling more awkward than amazing, a high-quality lubricant can make all the difference. Let’s be honest—no one has time for discomfort or awkward fumbling when you’ve got a baby waking up in an hour. Lube was designed for women, even during this crazy postpartum phase.
Lets talk about dryness. If you’re breastfeeding, your estrogen levels are likely lower than ever, which can leave your vaginal tissues drier and more sensitive. Lubricant restores that, making sex a little more comfortable again. No more gritting your teeth or worrying—it’s all about ease and pleasure.
Lubify isn’t your average, sticky, drugstore lube. Luxe Lube feels natural and luxurious, like the self-care product you never knew you needed. It’s silky, long-lasting, and free from harsh chemicals, so it’s safe.
The packaging isn’t awful either. Unlike those awkward, clinical-looking tubes you hide in your drawer, Lubify is designed to look chic and elegant—something you’ll feel okay to have on your nightstand or bathroom counter.
How to Ease Back into Sex...
Getting back into the groove after having a baby takes time—and that’s okay. There’s no rush, no timeline, and no one-size-fits-all solution. But there are a few things you can do to make the process feel less intimidating and more enjoyable.
Start by lowering your expectations. The first few times might not be magical, and that’s perfectly normal. Laugh off the awkward moments, be patient with yourself, and remember that it’s a journey.
Communication is key, too. Talk to your partner about how you’re feeling—both physically and emotionally. Let them know what you need to feel comfortable, whether it’s more time, more foreplay, or simply a promise to stop if it doesn’t feel right.
Don’t be afraid to have a little help. Using a lubricant isn’t a sign of failure; it’s a way to prioritize your comfort and make sure you’re both enjoying yourselves. Think of it as the little luxury that makes postpartum intimacy feel less like an obstacle course and more like something to look forward to.
Rediscovering Yourself (and Your Partner)
Sex after having a baby isn’t just about reconnecting with your partner—it’s about reconnecting with yourself. You’ve been through a huge transformation, and it’s okay to take things slow. The most important thing is to honor your body, your emotions, and your needs.
Embrace the messy postpartum moments, rediscover your rhythm, and remember that motherhood doesn’t mean you have to lose yourself. You’ve got this, mama…when you’re ready to slide back into action, Lubify is here to make it easier—and a lot more fun.